How to give the perfect handjob? Well, perfect doesn't exist, but we can give you the best advice we know to make it work when you have hand sex with a partner who has a penis.
What is a hand job?
A handjob is when you use your hands to stimulate your partner's penis. The classic is to run a hand up and down the shaft of the penis until your partner comes, but there are lots of little tips and tricks that can make the experience more intense and delicious. A hand job is also called a 'hand job'. You can say that you 'play it off' on your partner or that you 'give a player'. Some also use the word 'hand sex'.
How do you give a good handjob?
There is no one perfect way to give your partner a hand job. You can play it in many ways, and what you like is very different. Communication is the key to it being a good and delicious experience for both of you. It doesn't have to mean that you have to talk to each other, but pay attention to your partner's signals: Are they enjoying it? Are they coming? What happens if you change technique? You can also ask them to take your hand and show you how to do it.
We have collected 13 tips, tricks and techniques for how to give the best hand job.
1. Make sure you have warm hands - It's definitely more comfortable to have a warm hand on your dick than a set of cold fingers (unless it's something your partner actually likes). Then stick them if necessary. a trip under the hot tap or under the covers before you get started.
2. Be careful - Beware of sharp, frayed nails and hard finger rings. The penis can be tender and sensitive, so it's a good idea to be gentle. At least for a start, and especially if you don't know your sex partner that well and don't yet know what they like.
3. Lay out gently - It can be a good idea to start quietly by stroking the shaft of the penis from the bottom up. If it is not stiff yet, you can gently stroke it until it stands up.
4. Watch your partner masturbate - You can learn a lot from watching each other. Notice what your partner does themselves when they masturbate. Where do they stay? What rhythm do they like?
5. Use a steady hand - No rules without exceptions. You have certainly just read advice about being gentle and gentle, but it can actually also be nice for your sex partner to have a good, firm grip on the dick. So try your hand and see how hard you have to squeeze the shaft.
6. Twist - Try a technique where you sort of rotate or twist your hand as you run it up the penis. Finish the movement by wrapping the whole hand around the head of the penis and 'tilt' it off like you would open a bottle of ketchup with a screw cap.
7. Play with your head - You can e.g. hold around the cock while running the tip of your thumb around and around the head of the penis. Here it is a good idea to use a bit of saliva or lubricant. It can also be an advantage if the foreskin is pulled back a little.
8. Pressure on the underside of the penis - Keep firm pressure on the 'underside' of the penis. That is pinch in slightly with your thumb right where the penile cord runs. In particular, you may want to apply pressure when the thumb meets the head of the penis. Try it out and ask or read your partner to find out if they like it.
9. Give a handjob on the go - If you're into public sex, a player is also a discipline that can easily be carried out discreetly, even if you're outside the four walls of the bedroom: in the car, on the beach, in the garden - read if necessary. our guide Sex in the open: Here are the rules to find out where and how you can have sex in public.
10. Combine with a BJ - A handjob combined with a blowjob is also quite wonderful. You can e.g. use it as a wet finish to the whole session. If you lack inspiration, you can read our blog post Guide to oral sex: The 23 best tricks for a good blowjob .
11. Remember the lube - You can easily play it off on your partner without it, but lube spoils them just that extra bit. Alternatively, you can use saliva.
12. Squeeze around the root - Perhaps you have heard of a cock ring or a penis ring: A ring in e.g. rubber, you can put around the root of the penis to make the erection bigger and last longer. For some, it also enhances orgasm. You can mimic a penis ring with one hand by squeezing the root of your partner's penis while giving them a hand job. Pay attention to your partner's cues to gauge if they love it or if it really just hurts.
13. Use a penis sleeve - Sex toys go hand-in-hand beautifully with hand sex. A penis sleeve is a form of sheath with structure that feels delicious to slide up and down the penis. First put lubricant in your penis sleeve and then insert the penis. Now you can use your hand to guide the sleeve up and down the shaft of the penis. At Klub Venus you will find i.a. Geo Coral , which does the trick.
