How to lick pussy? And what are the best tips and tricks for oral sex? Only the imagination sets limits, but we have boiled down the most basic to a guide where you can find inspiration for how to satisfy your girlfriend or sex partner with your tongue.
This article is for you who have a sex partner with a vulva. If your partner has a penis, we have also made the guide how to give a blowjob.
What is oral sex?
When you and your boyfriend or sex partner lick, suck and kiss each other's genitals, it is oral sex. Some also call it pussy licking. That others call it "French". In other words, oral sex is sex with the mouth, and it can take place in many different ways. In this guide we explain some of them.
Can I get STDs from oral sex?
Yes, you can. Both gonorrhea, chlamydia, syphilis and herpes can be transmitted through oral sex. So even if you can't get pregnant from being licked or licking others, oral sex is still not safe sex. If you change sexual partners from time to time, it is always a good idea to be tested for venereal diseases so that you can look after each other.
Those were the opening words. Let's move on to what it's really about.
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The best 11 tips and tricks for licking pussy
- Find a good position. Not only for your partner's sake but also for your own. Giving oral sex can be tiring for the neck, shoulders, tongue and jaws. Therefore: Make sure you lie down well. For example you can lie on your stomach, support your elbows against the mattress and then push your hands under your partner's bottom so that you have a good grip around the abdomen. You can possibly lift their abdomen up a little so that it is easier to reach the vulva with the mouth. If it gets too hard for your arms, you can also push a pillow under your partner's butt.
- Say you like it. Remember to reassure your partner that you enjoy giving them oral sex. You can easily become unsure whether it now also feels nice for the other person. Do I smell? Do they think I'm stupid? Do they really like it? If you lie and worry about this sort of thing, it doesn't feel nice to have oral sex at all. Therefore, it can be nice for your partner if you say things like: "Mmmh, how good you taste". Or: "I love to lick you". You can also just moan and make mmm and yaaah sounds.
- Think about your pattern. You may have heard the myth that the trick to giving good tongue is to lick the alphabet. We're not saying it doesn't work - you can test it out. But so that it doesn't become one big chaotic spit bath with your tongue sloshing in all directions, you can think in patterns. For example around and around the clitoris in circles. Or up along one side of the vaginal opening, down along the other side and back again, so you draw an inverted U. It can also just be up-down-up-down with a wide tongue. The most important thing is that you stick to one rhythm and one pattern at a time. For a while anyway. After a few minutes of licking, you can switch to a new pattern for variety.
- Think about your pace. It's not about being super fast with your tongue when you give oral sex. Yes, sometimes it can feel great with an intense and quick tip of the tongue against the clitoris. But most of all, it's about being sensual in your movements. Start possibly slowly out and finish at a faster pace. Or ask your partner to speak up when you've found just the right speed on the tongue.
- Think about your strength. It can feel amazing to be licked with a hard and pointed tongue. And it can be just as nice to feel the soft and relaxed tongue against your vulva. But 10 minutes with a tense mouth that chops against one's clit is not that nice. Your tongue and mouth can be made both soft and hard, so experiment and pay attention to your partner's little cues to find out what they like. And then again: Remember variety.
- Use sex toys. You can easily bring a vibrator, a butt plug or another toy into the game. For example you can lick the clitoris while you penetrate your partner with a dildo. Or you can let the vibrator take care of stimulating the clitoris while you lick the labia.
- Get into the 69er. Who says only one of you will receive? If you lie down in the position known as the 69, you can both give and receive oral sex at the same time. One of them lies down on top of the other and positions themselves in such a way that their mouths are next to the crotch of the other. You can also arrange yourself so that you both lie on your side. Tadaa - now you can both give oral sex.
- Use doggy style. You can also lick your girlfriend's pussy while they lie on all fours in the doggystyle position. It gives a different angle, and your tongue gets the opportunity to reach completely different places of the vulva. Pro tip: Ask your sex partner to rock their back well in the meantime. Then you can better get to.
- Massage the inner thighs. The inner thighs are one of the extra sensitive places on the body where many people like to be touched during sex. Stroke or caress your partner across the inner thighs - preferably both at the same time in a symmetrical movement - it can be both delightfully caring and give tingling chills.
- Intertwined fingers. It can feel both romantic and intense to interlace fingers with your sex partner while giving oral sex. Then it also feels more like you are in the act together, rather than just a one-person job you are doing down south.
- Give finger at the same time. You can easily use your fingers - your tongue does not have to do the work alone when you lick pussy. And if you want to experiment a little, you can go in search of your partner's g-spot or play with inducing a squirt orgasm .
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Bonus info: Other words for oral sex
Dear child has many names and oral sex is much loved by many. Here are a handful of synonyms for oral sex:
- French
- lick pussy
- lick pussy
- lick mis
- to go down on
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