How to give a blowjob? Good question, because a good blowjob can be much more than your mouth sliding up and down the shaft of your sex partner's penis. In this guide, we have compiled a long list of tips and tricks for you who are looking for inspiration for oral sex with a partner who has a penis.
This article is for you who have a sex partner with a penis. If your partner has a vulva, we have also made the guide how to give oral sex.
What is a blowjob?
A blowjob is when you suck and lick your partner's penis. Some also call it cock sucking or cock licking. Typically, you move your head back and forth while you have a penis in your mouth - this is how it is often portrayed in porn films. But a blowjob can be much more advanced than that.
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Can you be bad at giving blowjobs?
No. As long as you make sure it doesn't hurt your partner, you can't give a blowjob that is bad as such. It is clear that with practice you become more experienced - but it is also about learning what exactly your partner likes. And you only know that when you've done it a few times.
Most of all, a blowjob is about doing something that feels good for your sex partner. Imagine how it would feel on your own body to be kissed, licked and sucked on. Then you can't go wrong in the city.
If you still feel that you need some tricks on how to give a good blowjob, read along here. But remember: No two people are the same, and there is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to sex. Not even when it comes to oral sex. Therefore: Experiment and test what you and your partner like.
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- Be careful. Be careful with teeth, sharp nails and hard finger rings. The penis can be sore and sensitive, so it's a good idea to be gentle. At least for a start, and especially if you don't know your sex partner that well and don't know what they like yet.
- Start out soft. When your partner is nearing climax and just about to come, many like a steady, rhythmic movement up and down the shaft of the penis until ejaculation. But it may well be a bit too direct and hard to start the blowjob in that way. That's why it's a good idea to start gently and softly with candy and suction on both the penis and the nose. As you warm up your partner, you can start to become more mechanical and rhythmic in your movements.
- Lick up and down the shaft. Start at the root and lick all the way up to the head of the penis. Now you can start over at the root again - or you can, for example, wrap your head around it and suck on it before you take it with your tongue from the bottom up.
- Remember plenty of saliva. Get your mouth watering to give your partner an even wetter experience. It makes it all go much more smoothly - literally.
- Don't forget the buns. You can also lick your partner's balls as part of the blowjob bet. Try different techniques of: Candy in a pattern shaped like a figure 8, lying down. There lick them with a wide tongue from the bottom up. You can also take them by mouth.
- Hum meanwhile. Yes, it may sound silly, but if you hum or try to hum while you have your balls or penis in your mouth, it creates vibrations that can feel so nice to your sex partner.
- Use a vibrator. Oral sex goes perfectly with your vibrator. Place it against your cheek while giving a blowjob and you'll see antics. You can e.g. easily use a clitoral vibrator for that purpose.
- Look your partner in the eye. There is nothing sexier than seeing your partner desire you. So create closeness and show that you love to satisfy your partner with intense eye contact while you have your penis in your mouth.
- Pull back the foreskin. But do it carefully. The head of the penis is sensitive, and it can increase the sensitivity when the foreskin is not in the way. Then gently pull it back with one hand while using your mouth to blow.
- Squeeze around the root. Perhaps you have heard of a cock ring: A ring in e.g. rubber, you can put around the root of the penis to make the erection bigger, harder and last longer. With one hand, you can imitate a cock ring by squeezing the root of your partner's penis while giving oral sex. But pay attention to your partner's cues to gauge if they love it or if it really just hurts.
- Then vacuum. Bring your mouth down around the shaft of the penis, gently close your lips around it and create a vacuum by sucking. Slowly pull your mouth back up the penis while maintaining vacuum.
- Use your hand. Combine your blowjob with a handjob by wrapping your hand around the shaft of the penis and moving it up and down while you either lick or suck on the head of the penis. You can also let your mouth follow with your hand up and down, so that it feels to your lover as if the penis is entering much deeper into your mouth. Remember to spit. Or team up with a tube of lubricant to make the experience even more delicious for your partner.
- Add a twist. Now it gets a bit advanced. Combine points 11 and 12 and twist your hand as you run it up and down the shaft of your partner's penis. Make sure your mouth closes to your hand to maintain vacuum.
- Make happy sounds. Knowing that the other turns you on and desires you is a turn on in itself. Show your partner that you're horny yourself by making satisfied sounds while giving oral sex. Yaaaa, mmmmm and aaaaahh have never been more effective communication.
- Keep the pace. Now, we wrote further up that you should not proceed directly with mechanical movements. But a steady pace is still part of the key to a good blow. The closer you get to climax, the more you have to keep a rhythmic movement at a steady pace to eventually make your partner come.
- Take it deep. If you feel like it - and your partner likes it - you can experiment with what is called deep throat. It means that you have to take the penis as far into your mouth as possible. Yes, almost down the throat. It can feel a bit violent and it can also trigger your gag reflex. Therefore, let it only be a trick you use if you turn it on yourself. The hack for deep throat is that you must try to relax and open up the throat as much as possible.
- Run your tongue around the head of the penis. Almost as if it were a lollipop. Use it as a variation while sucking and licking your partner's penis.
- Get into the 69er. You know, the position where you lie with your faces against each other's genitals? From here you can both give and receive oral sex at the same time.
- Lick the perineum. Who says it only has to be the penis and the noses that need to be pampered? With the tip of your tongue, you can pamper your lover's perineum before working your way up to the balls and later the penis itself.
- Add menthol. Some love the little tingling thrill it can give if you suck on a strong cough drop or have brushed your teeth right before a blow. Peppermint can also do the trick.
- Practice. If this is the first time you have to give a blowjob, you can practice a little. First of all: Calm down. Unless you intend to bite, you can't give a bad blow. But if it makes you feel more comfortable, then there's nothing wrong with trying our blowjob tips on a cucumber or banana first. You can also try putting a finger in your mouth to feel what feels good on your own body.
- Put a hand around your neck. Some turn on control. And if you are comfortable with your partner, and you turn it on yourself, you can take their hand and put it around your neck to show them that you want them to control your head. That way, they can also guide you to what pace they like.
- Touch the anus. If your partner likes it, you can gently and gently massage or caress around the anus. If you don't know your partner that well, start gently and try to read if they like being touched there. You can also insert your finger a little bit (remember plenty of moisture in the form of lubricant or saliva). Approx. four cm inside the rectum up against the bladder is the prostate - what some also call 'the man's g-spot'. Some come extra hard with a gentle but firm pressure against this very point while the penis is being stimulated.
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Bonus info: Other words for blowjob
Dear child has many names, and blowjobs are much loved by many. Here are a handful of synonyms for blowjob:
- to blow someone
- to give a blow
- to suck dick
- to lick dick
- fellatio
- French
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