Friend, there is not one answer. There are many ways to masturbate, and what each of us likes is different. Some use their fingers, others use toys. Some fantasize. Others do not. But common to all of us, it's about stimulating the body where it feels good.
Here we give you our guide to masturbation. Use it as inspiration and take from here what you can use when you have sex with yourself.
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- Give yourself plenty of time. If masturbation is new to you, take your time. Take the time to get to know yourself and your body. What feels nice?
- Wet the clitoris. You can easily masturbate without extra moisture, but it can feel nice when your fingers can slide easily over your clit. Use spit. Or a lubricant that makes it feel extra delicious.
- Change the pace. Does it feel best when you rub your finger quickly against the clitoris? Try changing gears. What does it feel like when you move your finger very slowly?
- Vary your pattern. Do you always move your finger in circles over the clitoris or just up and down? Try changing movement. For example you can make a U-motion that goes from under the vaginal opening, up over the clitoris and down on the other side of the vaginal opening again - back and forth, back and forth. Or use several fingers and 'wave' them quickly back and forth over your clit.
- Play with a vibrator. Sometimes the fingers just can't move fast enough. Give yourself the feeling of a clitoral vibrator against your clit. If you had difficulty coming before, this may be where the secret is hidden.
- Use your imagination. Imagine a situation that excites you. Think of a person who turns you on. If you haven't fantasized before while masturbating, you get a warm recommendation from here.
- Use the shower. Hold the shower head against your abdomen, separate if necessary. the labia apart and point the beam directly at the clitoris, if it feels good. Experiment with the strength of the beam and the temperature. If you have a bathtub, you can also try to lie down, place your abdomen under the faucet and turn it up well.
- Squeeze the clitoris. Two fingers, with a tweezer grip, squeeze a little around the clit while you stimulate it, can make it all feel even more intense.
- Use a dildo. It doesn't just have to be external, you stimulate yourself when you masturbate. Use a dildo or butt plug. Maybe masturbating by touching the clitoris is not your thing at all. Or you will be sent to heaven by stimulating yourself internally and externally at the same time.
- Try spreading or bringing your legs together. Do you always masturbate with your legs together? Try spreading them in the meantime - it can give a completely different feeling. Or vice versa: If you masturbate with your legs apart, experiment with bringing them together.
- Don't chase the orgasm. The big 'O' doesn't have to be the target of your masturbation at all. If you haven't masturbated before, or haven't experienced coming, focus instead on how good it feels just to touch yourself. The pleasure it gives is abundant in itself.
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What is masturbation?
Onanism is also called masturbation. You masturbate when you stimulate your genitals so that it feels nice and you get sexually aroused. Masturbation is a kind of 'sex with yourself'. There are many ways to masturbate. The most important thing is that your way feels nice to you.
How do you masturbate as a woman?
Women and girls (meaning: People who have a clitoris) masturbate differently than boys and men (or people born with a penis). If you have a female genital organ, masturbation will often involve touching your clitoris. You can do that with e.g. a finger or a vibrator .
You can move your finger in many ways when caressing your clit: Back and forth, up and down, in circles. You can move your finger slowly or quickly.
As a girl or woman, you can also masturbate by touching yourself inside the vagina. This can again be with a finger, or you can use a dildo or other sex toy.
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How to masturbate best?
There is no 'one size fits all' here. There is no best way to masturbate. What we turn on and like is very different. Explore yourself and what feels good to you. Maybe you'll find more 'best ways to masturbate'.
Can you masturbate too much?
No, you can't masturbate too much. If you masturbate often, and it starts to take time and focus from other important things in your everyday life, then masturbation may have taken over a bit. But as long as you function in a normal everyday life, you can safely continue your masturbation.
Is it unhealthy to masturbate?
It is not unhealthy to masturbate. In the old days, it was believed that masturbating was dangerous, that you could become blind or sick, but fortunately we have become wiser. On the contrary, it is a sign of health if you like having sex with yourself.
Is it healthy to masturbate?
Yes, you might think that masturbating is healthy! When you masturbate, happy hormones are released in your brain that make you happy. You become familiar and comfortable in your body. Masturbation makes you unwind, relax and connect with yourself. Masturbation is healthy.
So just go for it!
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Sources: Sexlinien.dk, Berlingske.dk
