Massage is not only good for sore neck muscles. Massage can also be a sensual and effective way to make your partner comfortable in his body and stimulate the erogenous zones. An intimate massage can give you a close physical connection - even if it doesn't have to lead to sex.
Here you will get a step-by-step guide to give your partner a relaxing and erotic massage.
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Most people love to be cuddled, caressed and massaged. Bodily contact and presence is nourishment for our senses and physical pleasure - and therefore it is also a central part of having sex. But how do you best get started with a massage that not only warms up the muscles, but also gets the blood flowing in the body? Here are five steps to an intimate massage.
Step 1: Prepare for the massage
You give the best and most sensual massage if you are well prepared. Your partner will appreciate that there is a check on things, so they just have to lie down and accept. Therefore, have a massage oil ready, find a comfortable place where your partner can lie and consider whether you should both turn off phones and other screens so as not to be interrupted.
Step 2: Start with the head and work your way down
An intimate and sexy massage should take time, so that your partner gradually becomes more and more relaxed and turned on. You don't need to go straight to massaging the balls, genitals or inner thighs, but start by massaging the top of the body and slowly move downwards. A good start can be a scalp massage or neck massage, which will instantly make most people completely relax.
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Step 3: Ask your partner for advice
Make the massage as pleasant as possible by asking your partner if there are areas of the body where they would like to be massaged. Perhaps the shoulders or lower back are particularly sore, and when you show care for your partner, it can help make the massage even more sensual and present.
Step 4: Focus on the erogenous zones
Ahh, this magic word: The erogenous zones. You've probably heard it many times before, and although it seems like a mysterious, closed country to some, most erogenous zones are really easy to get to. So there is no need to overlook these fantastic areas of the body – a real short cut to great erotic pleasure and arousal for your partner.
The erogenous zones include:
The ears - You may know the tingling sensation in the body when you are whispered in the ear or if your earlobe is caressed. It is an effective erogenous zone that you should remember when massaging your partner's head or neck.
The lips - Kiss them or run your fingers gently across the lips to activate the fine nerve cells in the lips.
The nipples - You can gently touch the nipples and at the same time massage or caress the chest.
The hands - The inside of the hands and the skin between the fingers is incredibly sensitive, and it can be both stimulating and relaxing to get a hand massage or to be caressed in the palm.
The inner thighs - Here you can massage the sensitive skin quite gently or possibly make gentle or stroking movements with your hands and fingertips. You can also use other items, such as a feather or piece of soft cloth.
The genitals - It is probably not a big secret that the genitals are an important erogenous zone. But be sure to end your erotic massage here and make it the big climax where the built-up arousal can finally have free play.
Step 5: Vary between gentle and intensive massage
Depending on which body part you are massaging, you can vary your movements. Be careful and gentle when you touch the body's most sensitive areas, and put a little more effort in when massaging the body's large muscles. You can also ask your partner continuously: Is it too hard? Or would you like to take on even more?
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Intimate massage does not have to lead to sex
An intimate massage does not have to mean that you have to have sex. The intimate can simply consist of you getting physically close to each other and checking into each other's bodily needs. It can give rise to good talks about the body, intimacy and desire, which may later mean nice, intimate sex.
You can easily become sexually excited during the massage without it ending in sex - you can save that spark and desire for other days, and in that way add extra excitement to your relationship.
What is intimate massage?
An intimate massage is a massage with a focus on the body's erogenous zones, such as ears, neck, lips, nipples, inner thighs, knees, hands and sex. The intimate massage can lead to hot sex, but it can also be a way to simply feel more in touch and connected with your partner.
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