Rimming is the ultimate combination of anal sex and oral sex . And you only need three things to get started: Your tongue, your partner's butt and lots of lubrication in the form of either saliva or lubricant - then you're 'all set'!
But what is a rhyme job? How do you do it? And are there any precautions you should take? We've got your back - and your butt!
What is a rhyme job?
A rimjob is oral sex, where you lick the anus with the tongue. It's not much different from licking pussy - except that it's not the vulva that's being pampered with the tip of the tongue, but the butthole. By the way, it can also be called rimming or anilingus.
First things first: Always remember to ask for consent before sex. If you and your partner have not practiced rimming before, it is a good idea to start the conversation and ask if they would like to be licked anally. And if you think it's awkward to ask directly, then during oral sex you can gently touch your partner's butthole and ask "do you want me to lick you here?".
Rimjobs and hygiene
Hygiene is important - especially during anal sex, because there may be residues of faeces and bacteria at the rectal opening. And let's stress as much as we can. As long as you wash yourselves, it is neither unhygienic, dangerous nor disgusting to give or receive anilingus. If you know you are planning on rimming, you can go to the bathroom 30-60 minutes before to get rid of whatever you need to get rid of. It is also a good idea to wash yourself with warm water and intimate soap beforehand.
If you think that it can be done easily and practically with a wet wipe from a package on the bedside table, then stop right away: It is not recommended to use wet wipes , because there may be cream and perfume in them, which can irritate the delicate skin between your legs and the mucous membranes of the vagina.
Should I remove the hair before?
It's up to you - and only you! It is completely normal to have hair between the buttocks, and you can choose e.g. to get waxed or shaved. Some find that they become more sensitive and that it feels better and more intense if they are clean-shaven in the area being licked. On the other hand, it can be annoying in the days after, when the hairs start to grow back: It can itch, and you can get ingrown hairs that become inflamed.
Can you get STDs from rimming?
As with all other sex, you can infect each other with sexually transmitted diseases during rimjobs. If you have sex with changing partners, it is always a good idea to get tested for STDs regularly.
Lollipops and dental dams
If you are worried about diseases or hygiene, you can use lollipops. It's a piece of thin latex that you put over the place you want to lick. You can also use what is called a 'dental dam', which is essentially the same, but which was actually developed for use during dental surgery. And if you haven't remembered to buy lollipops or dental dams, you can take a condom and cut it open at the sides so that you have a flat piece of latex that you lay over your partner's anus.
You can also use lollipops when licking pussy if you are worried about STDs.
Pro tip: Put a good dollop of lube on your partner's skin before placing the lollipop over it. It makes the experience for your partner that much more delicious.
So how do you do that?
There are thousands (okay, we haven't counted) of ways to give anal sex, and your rimming job can be endlessly varied. You can draw different patterns with the tongue and make it both soft and hard. If you need a concrete beginner's guide, you will get instructions for your first rhyming job here:
8 tips: How to give a rhyme job?
1. Relax the tongue - make your tongue wide and flat as you lick your partner across the anus from the bottom up.
2. Sharpen your tongue - after you have licked for a while with a soft and relaxed tongue, you can make your tongue more pointed and hard. You can let it circle around the butthole and you can also penetrate your partner with the tip of your tongue.
3. Use plenty of saliva - or lubricant. It makes the tongue slide more easily and increases the sensitivity of your sex partner.
4. Vary your pattern - candy from the bottom up in long strokes, as if you were eating a soft ice cream. Make small intense sweets with the tip of your tongue. Lick around the anus in circles. Or draw a semicircle around the butthole back and forth, back and forth. Use one pattern at a time, but switch after a while for variety.
5. Kiss - when you get tired of your tongue, you can give it a break and use your lips instead. Give soft, long, wet, warm kisses with the lips placed on or around the anus.
6. Breath on the anus - it can feel so delicious for your partner to feel your warm breath against the butthole. Open your mouth wide and place your lips against your partner's butt while you calmly and relaxedly breathe out warm air.
7. Also remember the other erogenous zones - caress the clitoris, use a finger in the vagina, stroke the penis or nibble your partner's nipples. If you have the energy not only to focus on the anus, you can get your partner even more aroused and ringing by touching all the other magical points on their body as well.
8. Add your favorite pleasure toy - you don't have to leave your favorite sex toy in the drawer. A rimming job goes perfectly hand in hand with toys like a vibrator that can stimulate the clitoris or your partner's g-spot while your tongue is busy licking. A vibrating penis ring or a penis sleeve are also quite obvious to include in the play.
Good positions for rimming
It goes without saying that you should choose a position where it is easy for you to get between your partner's buttocks. You can both lie down or stand, and to make it a little easier, you can hold your partner's buttocks spread with one hand on each - or you can ask them to hold them themselves, then use your hands to stimulate your partner or yourself meanwhile. A good position can be:
Doggystyle: Your partner lies on all fours or on their knees while they rest their upper body against the mattress.
Standing: Your partner can e.g. lean over a table or bed while you sit on the floor facing their butt.
Sitting: You lie down while your partner either squats over your face or sits on it (without resting too heavily on your head, of course - you also need to be able to breathe).
How does it feel to get a rhyming job?
A rimjob doesn't feel much different from other forms of oral sex. It can feel wet, delicious, tantalizing and thoroughly wonderful. Your bottom is full of pleasure points. The anus has many nerve endings, and this means that you are sensitive right here. The nerves are connected to the pelvic floor muscles , and therefore there are quite good chances of having an orgasm when you are stimulated in and around your butt. For some, anal sex is also associated with taboo, and therefore it can be extra naughty to be licked and penetrated anally.
Other words for rhyme job
- Rhyming
- Analingus
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