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Vaginal orgasm, clitoral orgasm, mixed orgasm, squirt orgasm... With a vagina, there are reportedly many ways to the seventh heaven, but for the vast majority, the vaginal orgasm is unexplored land. However, it doesn't have to be that way... Here we guide you on how to get the fabled orgasm.
What is a vaginal orgasm?
An orgasm is a reaction to a prolonged stimulation of the genitals. Most people experience having an orgasm through stimulation of the clitoral head, which sits above the vagina, but this is not the only type of orgasm that the clitoral organ can provide.
Because while the head of the clitoris is visible to you and your partners as the small, sensitive knob that sits above the vagina, the clitoris is actually a larger organ that goes seven to ten centimeters into the body. It is therefore the same organ that triggers a vaginal orgasm, where you are stimulated inside the vagina by the penetration of either a penis, a finger or a piece of sex toy.
Since it is the same organ that is stimulated, researchers discuss whether there are actually two different orgasms when it comes to clitoral and vaginal orgasms, and whether one can therefore say something about the difference in quality, length and intensity of the different types of orgasms. One thing is certain, however: if you want to have an orgasm, it is a good idea to focus on the clitoral organ.
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The difference between the vaginal orgasm and the clitoral orgasm
If we look more closely at the head of the clitoris, which is the small knob at the vagina, it actually has almost twice as many nerve endings as a penis. The clitoris has 8,000 nerve endings, while a penis has 4,000-5,000 nerve endings . Therefore, you would think that it is easier to have an orgasm if you are the owner of a clitoral organ - and perhaps that is also the case when it comes to stimulation of the clitoral head, but unfortunately many find that vaginal orgasm is much more difficult to achieve because the internal stimulation of the clitoral organ is not as direct as stimulation of the clitoral head.
In fact, studies show that only approximately 18 percent of everyone with a vagina has experienced being able to come alone through penetration. Yet there is a misconception that vaginal orgasm is the most "real" type of orgasm, which may be because the grandiose and always simultaneous orgasms we see in everything from romantic movies to porn movies are almost always the result of penetration forward for stimuli of the clitoral head.
Can everyone have a vaginal orgasm?
Basically yes - if you have a sheath, but there may be some factors that put you off a physical party firework. The most common reason for not having an orgasm is a weak pelvic floor muscle. It may not sound so cheeky, but the physical part of the orgasm can simply be best explained as your pelvic floor muscles going into spasms. Repeatedly the muscles contract and release again, but with untrained muscles the contractions will hardly be felt, and this can result in the orgasm feeling very weak or not making its entrance at all.
Sex is at least as much in the head as in the body, and therefore the psyche can also have a big impact on whether you experience an orgasm. In order to have an orgasm, you need to relax, and stress and worries are therefore some of the biggest orgasm robbers out there.
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How do I get a vaginal orgasm?
Just like with a clitoral orgasm, you achieve a vaginal orgasm through intense stimulation of your clitoral organ - in this case, the stimulation just happens from the inside out. The reason why clitoral orgasms are easier for most people than vaginal orgasms is the convenient way the clitoral head protrudes from the organ, which can otherwise be difficult to hit accurately.
It is probably here that the talk about the mythical g-spot has arisen - it is the area in your vagina where the clitoral organ is most easily accessible. It varies from vulva to vulva where this point is located, but you will find it approximately two to five centimeters inside the vagina on the wall of the vagina towards the pubic bone. Vaginal orgasm is achieved when this area is massaged or otherwise stimulated by sex toys, fingers or penis through pressure. And we are not just talking about one or two small pressures, but an even and quite hard pressure on the same area in a constant rhythm.
If your partner uses fingers, it's a good trick to make "come here" movements, while a good sex position to achieve vaginal orgasm can for example be doggystyle, because your partner with a penis or a strap-on collides with the front of the vaginal wall, where the g-point is.
6 tips for those who want to experience a vaginal orgasm
- Kneel and train your pelvic floor. Strong pelvic floor muscles provide stronger contractions and thus potentially easier and better orgasms.
- Relax and let go. It may be difficult, but try not to think about tomorrow's tasks or about your eagerness to have a vaginal orgasm. It comes best by letting go of thoughts and control and instead letting the pleasure take over the body physically and mentally.
- Don't think so much about whether the orgasm comes via the clitoris or the vagina , but more about the fact that you have to stimulate your clitoral organ - researchers disagree about whether we can even distinguish between clitoral and vaginal orgasms.
- Doggystyle or missionary position with a pillow under the bottom are good positions for penetration, which can stimulate the g-spot - i.e. the clitoral organ in the vagina - and thus lead to vaginal orgasm.
- Remember that the stimulation requires continuous and constant pressure - just like when you get an orgasm by stimulating the head of the clitoris.
- "Come here" movements are a good way to achieve vaginal orgasm through a partner's fingers. The movement can be difficult to do yourself, but there are sex toys that do the same movement.
Also read our guide to tantric sex , our article on the best sex games , and our guide for those considering a threesome .
