Maybe it's time to give your or your partner's prostate some loving attention? Here we guide you on how to massage what is popularly called the 'man's g-spot', but everyone born with a penis naturally has this point, which can trigger intense prostate orgasms.
What is the prostate?
The prostate is a gland that produces most of the fluid that makes up sperm. The prostate is perhaps one of the human body's best-kept sexual secrets, as it is only accessible via the rectum, and centuries of socialization have made the anal area difficult and taboo to explore and enjoy for many.
It's a shame, because the prostate is a source of great pleasure regardless of which gender and sexuality you identify with.
Known as the man's g-spot
For many people, prostate rhymes with disease and Movember moustache, because prostate cancer is one of the most frequent forms of cancer - also in Denmark. But the prostate now also has a more positive association: it is known as the 'man's g-spot', which means that anyone born with a penis can achieve pleasure by having the prostate stimulated through the rectum.
Where is the prostate located?
The prostate is located at the root of the penis just below the urinary bladder, and the urethra runs through it. When a person with a prostate becomes inflamed, the prostate swells and becomes sensitive to stimulation.
The swollen prostate can best be compared to a walnut both in size and in its furrowed surface, but you can neither see nor directly touch the prostate, as it sits inside the abdomen some distance behind the penis. On the other hand, you can stimulate the prostate anally, as it sits quite close to the rectum.
What is prostate massage?
There are at least two good reasons for prostate stimulation: health and pleasure. We take the health reason first: As the prostate helps to produce sperm, sperm can remain in the gland, which can create an accumulation of bacteria, which can be responsible for swelling. Through prostate massage, you can empty the gland, which can reduce the risk of, among other things, prostate cancer and erection problems and reduce frequent urination at night.
And then for the more fun reason: Because in addition to the gland's practical tasks, the prostate also goes by the name 'the male g-spot', which means that if you were born with a penis, you can achieve great excitement and intense orgasms by massaging the prostate. In fact, many find that prostate orgasms are more intense and long-lasting than the orgasm they get from penile stimulation. It can be difficult to find the prostate with your own fingers, as 10-13 centimeters up the rectum have to be stimulated, but you can use a dildo or get help from your partner's hands or penis.
8 steps: How to massage your partner's prostate
1. Talk together: Massaging the prostate benefits both health and can be a direct way to send yourself or a partner to the seventh heaven, but for many it will be a new and perhaps borderline experience to be stimulated so far up the rectum . That is why it is important that you agree with your partner before you start with prostate massage.
2. Create security: Prostate massage is only nice if the person to be massaged relaxes the sphincter. Make sure that you have created a safe and comfortable setting together.
3. Wait until after going to the toilet: Prostate massage can cause bowel movements because it also stimulates the rectum, so it may be a good idea to do prostate stimulation right after your partner has been to the toilet. You can also use an enema to empty the bowel just before the massage of the prostate.
4. Use lube: Be generous with the amount of lube, as the anus, unlike the vagina, does not help to create moisture and lubrication itself.
5. Find the right object: You have to go about 10-13 centimeters into your partner's rectum to be able to hit what is popularly called the man's g-spot, so unless you have very flexible hands, it is easier to use either the dick or an object that has a rounded tip and a smooth surface. For example a dildo. There are several different prostate dildos that are designed to match the shape of the inside of the intestine.
6. Find the right position: The easiest way to massage your own or your partner's prostate is for the person to be massaged to stand in a crawling position with hands and knees on the ground.
7. Push and pull: Carefully insert your finger, penis, prostate dildo or the object you have chosen to use up into your partner's rectum and apply light pressure to the gland, which sits 10-13 centimeters up. This provides an intense sensation that can create an erection in the person being massaged. You then pull the object approximately 5 centimeters out of the rectum, release the pressure and carefully insert it again. Repeat this movement about 10 times before finally holding the pressure on the prostate for about 7 seconds. Then release the pressure and do it all over and over and…
8. Remember hygiene: The rectum is an area with many bacteria, so remember to always clean the object you used for the prostate massage with warm water and e.g. a soap for sex toys and wash your hands thoroughly - especially if you have used your finger.
Also read our guide to proper cleaning of sex toys .
How to massage your own prostate
The road to prostate orgasm is probably shorter if you have the help of a partner, but far from impossible to achieve alone. Use the guide above and possibly invest in a prostate massage probe that makes it easy for you to control how and when you want to massage your prostate.
Also read our guide to anal sex , the best tips for a rimjob , and our blog post with the best sex positions . We also offer anal toys at Club Venus.
