One of life's great questions about one of life's equally great mysteries: the orgasm. And it is not without reason that orgasms are so sought after - because yes, it IS nice to come. There is no doubt about that. But remember that there are many lovely things in this life: chocolate, laughing, having a hot tub - and sex without orgasm too. You can add more to the list yourself. So whether you have experienced an orgasm or whether you still have one to go, it is less important.
The most important thing is that it feels nice and nice when you have sex. Keep that in mind as we move forward in the text and answer all your questions about that famous orgasm.
What does an orgasm feel like?
There is no one way an orgasm feels, just as the length of the orgasm can also be different from time to time. When you orgasm, you may be able to feel muscle contractions in your pelvic floor and around your genitals, and afterwards you'll probably feel wonderfully relaxed.
Someone compares the feeling of an orgasm to the feeling of a sneeze. The same thing happens in your body when you come as when you sneeze: a tension builds up, an automatic reaction comes from your body, and afterwards you feel relieved.
Some orgasms are intense. Others are small and short. Your orgasm does not feel the same every time, and you cannot count on experiencing orgasm in the same way as your girlfriends or your boyfriend.
When you have landed on this page, is it perhaps because you doubt whether you have experienced an orgasm yourself?
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What is an orgasm?
When you orgasm, a series of rapid contractions occur in your abdomen that you cannot control yourself. Blood vessels and the genitals swell, your heart rate increases and your brain releases hormones and signaling substances. An orgasm is the body's reflex to be sexually stimulated.
Can you be in doubt as to whether you have had an orgasm?
Yes, you may have doubts. Maybe you have an expectation of what an orgasm should feel like, and therefore you become unsure if that was even what you experienced the last time you had sex. The best advice is to stop chasing the orgasm.
Because really, it's not that important if you come. Sex can be lovely, wonderful, nice, fantastic and exciting, even if it doesn't end in The Big O: The Orgasm. Maybe you've seen porn movies where the actors moan and scream when they come, and therefore you expect your body to react the same way when it orgasms. Or you have been told or have read somewhere that once it happens, you have no doubts at all. Don't believe what other people say and instead play with what feels good when you have sex.
Can everyone have an orgasm?
Someone will probably claim that everyone can have an orgasm. Studies show that 4-7% of everyone with a vulva has never tried to come. And there can be many reasons at play. Both psychological, physical and social.
Maybe you feel insecure when you have sex. Maybe you have performance anxiety. Or you may be stressed.
How long does an orgasm last?
An orgasm lasts 3-20 seconds. But like most other things in life, the orgasm is not a one size fits all . If you think you've had an orgasm that's lasted longer, we definitely believe you. The ways of orgasm are inscrutable.
It is also different from body to body, how long it takes to reach orgasm.
