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If you thought your vibrator was only for pleasure when you're alone at home, we've got news for you: Your vibrator buddy is great company for solo sex, but just as good to have on hand when you have sex with a partner.
If you want to find your favorite toy the next time you have sex with others, but are unsure how to behave, read along here.
Choose a vibrator you can use as a couple
Firstly, it can seem confusing which vibrator to choose. There are different ways to use the vibrator together, but it's a good idea to choose one that doesn't get in the way or strain your legs so you can move freely. A suction vibrator can, for example, be impractical if you have sex in the missionary position or have oral sex , because its head is relatively large. On the other hand, it can function in other positions.
A small and practical bullet vibrator, on the other hand, will not be in the way. And there are also couple vibrators that are made to stimulate both at the same time. As you explore toy sex as a couple, you'll learn what you like and what doesn't work for you.
Which vibrator should you invest in? We guide you through here:
Clitoral vibrator
A type of vibrator that comes in many shapes and colors and is designed to stimulate the clitoris with its intense vibrations. It is quite possibly one of the most versatile pieces of sex toy because, despite its name, it can be used to stimulate much more than the clitoris. Use it e.g. on the perineum or on the nose - but always check with your partner whether it feels nice. All bodies are different - and on some body parts it feels more intense to be stimulated with a vibrator than on others.
But summa summarum: If you choose a small and handy clitoral vibrator, you will be able to stimulate yourself or your partner in virtually all sex positions .
Butt plug
Not all buttplugs come with vibrations, but some do. A butt plug is for you who like the feeling of being filled, and you can actually both have a butt plug inserted into the anus during sex if you want. There are many pleasure points in your butt, and if you want to use a vibrator together while you have anal sex, a vibrating butt plug is brilliant. Never use an ordinary vibrator anally - you may risk it slipping up inside you if there is not some kind of backstop on it. Therefore: Choose a vibrator that is made for the purpose.
Remote controlled vibrator
A remote-controlled vibrator is perfectly natural to use together with your partner. You can use it to take control of when the other should be stimulated, and many remote-controlled vibrators are also so small that they can be attached to your underwear, so you can take your vibrator play out in public: When you go to the basement for to wash clothes, a trip to Netto - or to a party.
Couple vibrator
There are also vibrators that are made to stimulate both of you at once. Couple vibrators come in a multitude of colors, shapes and designs depending on which genitals they are intended to fit. A couples vibrator is a nice addition to the selection of sex toys if you both want to be stimulated at the same time.
5 tips: How do we use the vibrator together?
It may sound like a cliché, but it is good enough: Only the imagination sets limits. But if you lack inspiration, here are a few suggestions on how you can approach it:
You can take turns in control - let one be in control while they stimulate the other with the vibrator while you have sex. It can be without penetration or while one of you is being penetrated.
Show your partner what you like - stimulate yourself with the vibrator while your partner watches. They both learn about what you like, and there can also be something quite so naughty about looking at and being looked at.
Stimulate yourself - You can also take care of your own satisfaction and stimulate your own erogenous zones while having sex to reach climax.
Use the vibrator for oral sex - hold e.g. the vibrator against your cheek or jaw while giving a blowjob to give your partner a wet and vibrating experience. Or hold it against the clitoris while licking your partner.
Remember that a vibrator is not only for the vulva - as mentioned, a vibrator can be used in many other places than on the vagina. A slightly wider vibrator - such as Mushy, which you can find on our webshop - where the vibrations are distributed over a larger surface, can also be used to move up and down a penis shaft.
How do I tell my boyfriend I want to use sex toys?
Do you find it difficult to figure out how to introduce your partner to your vibrator? Here are a few ideas:
- Write a vibrator on your wish list for your birthday (no, maybe not the version you send to your mother) and to introduce the idea without having to "do the talking".
- Give your partner a vibrator as a gift. Wrap it up and put a little note on it that says: "Maybe we can play with it together?".
- Let them know that the vibrator is not a replacement for them - it's an addition to your otherwise fantastic sex life.
- Read our guide 5 good tips: How to introduce the vibrator in your relationship .
